What would you tell yourself, if you could pass important life experience on to yourself when you were a little girl or boy?
Often this is an exercise that therapists, mentors and coaches would ask you to do, if you search for answers in your life.
I got the possibility to write a letter to a person that did me wrong, when I was a young child during a shadow process that the late writer Debbie Ford held in Copenhagen a few years ago in 2011. When I thought of the person in question, I imagined that he was just a little boy. Writing the letter helped me forgive him and I could finally let go of a lot of negative thoughts and emotions that had been a heavy burden for a very long time. I never sent the letter, but the process of writing it all down on paper was a tremendous relief nothing less. A burden literally disappeared that day.
Thinking of ourselves, as the children we were, could have an important impact on how we see and understand ourselves. We tend to be more forgiving towards kids, as we know they haven't the same insights as we do as adults.
Many of us, and maybe you too, experience moments or even longer periods in our lifetime that at are really difficult. And so have I a little while back. Luckily I had the possibility to talk to someone that could guide me through the storm, and I learned so much from those difficult months.
What I would tell myself when I was young, and I actually continue to remind myself every now and then is as follows:
Remember that it is all right to do things that makes you feel good and even great. You are good enough and lovable just the way you are. People around you have endless needs and wishes, and you will never be able to help everyone with every single thing they seem to require. If you take good care of yourself and your beautiful energy, you will experience the happiness and freedom that you are longing for.
Think about it, what would you wish you could tell yourself when you were a child?